May 15, 2013 by Liberty
Sometimes the most stressful times in life are when absolutely nothing changes. We get hung up in a routine. Some people refer to it as the daily grind. Everything is going fine until one day when it all begins to get painful. You begin to burn out. I get sick of everything and everyone when it happens. Everyone has there own specific symptoms to this but I’m sure you know what I mean.
This is more common than most people like to admit. Many people just suffer through it. Some watch television. Some start drinking. Some go on vacation. Some quit their jobs and start barely profitable businesses (that’s me!)
Burn out does not have to control your life. I still face it from time to time but these days I’ve figured out how to deal with it.
I just burn out my burn out.
What is Your Burn Out?
When I start feeling like I’m burnt out, it can mean any of a million different things. Burn out is an easy term to use. Everyone can use the term willy-nilly. You can say you’re burned out when you’re feeling depressed. You can feel burn out when you’re angry. You can feel burn out when you’re lonely. I commonly feel it when I’m bored. Burn out is not a descriptive enough term to find a solution. The first thing that you need to do is define what is really wrong.
In some situations it will be easy. Many people will be able to point to one or two things pretty fast. Perhaps you feel unappreciated by your boss. Maybe your wife is sleeping with the gardener? Maybe there are a billion little things zooming around in your head. Write them down if you have to.
Some people only hear crickets chirping when I tell them they need to find out what’s really wrong. I understand that. I used to never be able to figure out why I was feeling down. It’s a skill that needs to be developed. This is particularly true for men that have been raised “not to feel things.” Like it or not, emotions are a fundamental part of life. You need to figure them out.
If you can’t find what’s upsetting you then ask what’s wrong with your life. If that doesn’t work then ask what would you change about your life if you could. You should be able to work yourself back to why you’re burnt out from answering either of those questions.
Decide To Solve The Problem
After you find out what’s wrong, you need to decide that you’re going to deal with the problem. This can be one of the hardest parts for many people. Many people decide to try to solve a problem. Very few people decide to solve it. There is a difference.
You have an a-hole of a boss to deal with on a daily basis.
If you try to solve the problem, you might ask him nicely to change in some specific way. Maybe he listens a little or maybe he laughs you out of the office. Either way, if it doesn’t help you, then you’re done.
If you decide to solve it then you will continue pushing. You’ll ask your boss repeatedly. You’ll ask to be transferred if that doesn’t work. You’ll talk to your bosses bosses. Ultimately, you’re willing to quit your job to solve the problem.
All the problems you have can be solved. Solving them may create other problems but so does anything that you do in life. If you choose to suffer through the bad boss then you’ll have to deal with stress and possible medical problems from that stress. If everything goes wrong trying to solve the problem, at least you have the comfort of knowing you tried.
How To Solve It
There are a million ways to solve any problem in life. There are small solutions and there are change your life solutions. Only you can make the decision of which you need to make. Not all of them will work out.
That’s why I advocate burning out your burn out. You don’t need to solve the problem. You don’t need to battle with the problem. You need to start a war with the problem.
Try again and again and again until you succeed.
If a problem is causing you stress then it’s causing your life more problems then you’ll ever know. You can’t settle for an okay solution. Your burn out is completely your fault. You’re responsible for making the changes to make your life better. If you don’t do it then no one else ever will. Burn out your burn out by being more stubborn than any of the problems you could possibly have.